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Murder Survivors Handbook has been well received across the country and won the Benjamin Franklin Award for Best in Self Help by Independent Book Publishers. A great deal of reading, interviewing, collecting stories and viewing took place to gather information for this book. My premise was that none of us knows it all.  While it would be impossible to capture everything for such a resource book, I was content to give enough variance and links, so each reader would feel less alone and have more information for their new and treacherous journey.

I plan to introduce one of these sources each month.  I will select them in no order but as they come to me.  Each resource is of equal importance as is each homicide.

Latest Entry is: Scream at the Sky by Carlton Stowers

The book Scream at The Sky, by Carlton Stowers, has as its subtitle: Five Texas Murders and One Man’s Crusade for Justice.  He tells a true story of families impacted by the murders of five young women, who did not know each other.  The killings started in 70’s. Fourteen years later, a cold-case detective put fresh eyes on the murders that spanned a period of seventeen months.

There are many families one rarely hears about who are living with the open wounds of unsolved cases for many years and often lifetimes.  There are few specific resources for families whose loved ones have been murdered; there are even fewer resources for folks who wait years to find out what happened to their loved ones.  You’ll often hear them say, “It seems like no one cares.”

It is natural thing to come up with ideas about why something happens.  We all do it. When there are no answers, families decide what they think happened, as in the case explored by Stowers’ book.  One of the families impacted by this serial killer concluded that one of the victims’ mothers “wild” friends killed the woman’s daughter. They were so convinced that their theory was true that they would not even sit with the woman at her daughter’s funeral.  This belief was played out again and again, with rejection and ostracism contributing to this mother’s life-long mental health problems.  Fourteen years passed before the real culprit was identified by cold-case detective John Little.

While there, scroll down and read previous entries:

Borrowed Narratives by Harold Smith

The Ride by Brian Macquarrie ( Boston Globe)

Parrallel Justice for Victims of Crime by Susan Herman

Connie Saindon, MFT, Founder



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