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New Book

The Journey

Learning to Live with Violent Death

leads people through a healing process
after losing a loved one to a violent death


When a loved one dies due to violence, survivors are plunged into an overwhelming world of chaos, trauma, and grief.

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The Journey: Learning to Live with Violent Death is a workbook for adults (and those who work with them) who have been impacted by violent death through homicide, suicide, terrorism, drunk driving, and domestic violence.

It offers a process to help shore up the resiliency of the readers and support-group members as they learn to live with a horrific loss. This self-help guide is a resource for individuals and support group facilitators.

It meets the need of those who may not have access to trained specialists or those who may wish to strengthen their ability to live with what has happened more privately.
In addition, The Journey can aid professionals in offering services — services with which they are unfamiliar — in a more informed way.

The workbook provides an easy-to-follow, ten-step process with survivor writers who answer the same questions to lend a helping hand to those who follow in their footsteps.

It is based on the Restorative Retelling model developed by Edward K. Rynearson, MD, a leader in the field of in the field of violent death bereavement and founder of the Violent Death Bereavement Society.

Nationally, there are about 50,000 violent deaths annually. From that number, there are an additional ten to twelve people connected to the victim who are significantly impacted by this loss. These numbers do not take into account returning soldiers and their families who have been impacted by violent death as well.

Written by Connie Saindon, MA, MFT, the book is being formally released on Dec. 8, 2015, in memory of Connie’s sister “Tiny” who was murdered, at age 17, on this date in 1961.

The book is available in print and ebook formats.

Praise for the book

The current amount of material in this field is quite sparse and The Journey will prove to be valuable for professionals working with this population and for the co-victims as well.

Deborah Spungen, author of
And I Don’t Want to Live This Life
and founder of Families of Murder
Victims in Philadelphia

The Journey workbook is a much needed and useful aid for survivors of violent death.

Alison Salloum, PhD, LCSW
University of South Florida

Connie Saindon has brought the theoretical into the practical with this user-friendly workbook for family and friends of those who have died traumatically.

Janice Harris Lord, author of
No Time for Goodbyes
and former Director of
Victim Services of MADD


• Nonfiction: Death, Grief, Bereavement
• Publisher: Wigeon Publishing
• Publication date: December 8, 20145
• Size, print edition: 8.5 x 11
• Pages: 222
• Formats:
• paperback; ISBN: 978-0-9896913-8-3; $19.95
• e-book: Kindle, iBooks, Nook, Kobo, etc.; $7.99


About the Author

Connie SConnie Saindon, author, Murder Survivor's Handbook: Real-life Stories, Tips & Resourcesaindon is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and among the few specialists in the field of violent death bereavement. She is the founder of the nonprofit Survivors of Violent Loss Program in San Diego, which began at the University of California-San Diego outpatient clinic in 1998. Her commitment to violent loss bereavement is related to the loss of her sister, aged 17, to homicide in 1961.

She is author of Murder Survivor’s Handbook: Real-Life Stories, Tips & Resources, which received a Benjamin Franklin Gold Award in 2015. She also is a contributing author of Violent Death, Resilience and Intervention Beyond the Crises (2006).

When not pursuing her professional interests she may be found kayaking in the Atlantic or Pacific oceans, skiing, walking her dog, or taking photographs. A native New Englander, Saindon splits her time between Boothbay, ME, and San Diego, CA.



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Learn more at Violent Loss Resources:


What do a nurse, Director of Families and Friends of Murder Victims, a teacher, a Chaplin, Directors of Restorative Justice, therapist, missionary and survivor have in common? They are members of a trained team in San Bernardino, and they need our support.

They have prepared for the past three years to be ready — to be ready for their work and support survivors of violent loss. Many are driven to make a difference from their own grief stories to show how they have survived. Many continue a career in aiding humanity, all committed to knowing how they can help survivors after murder and other violent deaths.

It was an honor to be among such incredible people again the week just before Thanksgiving. They had all given up there weekend to spend three days together learning more about The Journey, a ten week support group.

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They have formed a team that will support each other as they take the tools that The Journey provides them in working with others with the ideas and support from the evidence-based model Restorative Retelling by Edward Rynearson, MD.

The Journey: Learning to Live with Violent Loss, with its accompanying audio recordings, will be released December 8, 2015. This is an updated version of the book published in 2008 by Connie Saindon. Three more real stories have been added along with more examples of Survivor Heroes, Missions and support-group guidelines. The book will be available on and other retail outlets, along with her other book, the award winning Murder Survivors Handbook: Real-Life Stories, Tips and Resources.

To support the San Bernardino Team, contact Anna Hamilton, Assoc. Director of Restorative Justice at 909-475-5474 or

For more information about the books and support-group training, contact Connie Saindon, MFT, Founder of Survivors of Violent Loss and Violent Loss Resources, at 858-699-7700 or


Connie Saindon

Survivors of Violent Loss exists to build a lifeline of hope and healing by providing support and education to those who live and work with violent death. Coping isn't easy. Survivors of Violent Loss can help. (619) 685-0005